I love…
I finally got around to actually writing this post! Kudos to myself…kidding ^_^; This entry is for Georgina’s I Love Project. To be honest, I love a lot of things and people to varying degrees. For this post however, I will be focusing on why I love my hobbies or extra-curricular activities as I mentioned in my contribution to the I Love project. What I said was – “I love Anime, Manga, Games, KPop and Asian dramas cause they keep me happy”.
Right from my childhood I have always been a “happy” kid. My mom tells me that I would often be happy by myself…playing with toys or talking to imaginary friends in the mirror (aka myself lol). In short, even though I liked being social, it was never a necessity for me to be happy. I could be perfectly happy even if I had no friends around.
I haven’t had the most nice experiences with friends. I had some good ones but a lot of times I found myself being taken advantage of or taken for granted. I am a people-pleaser and I tend to be quite generous with my friends and treat them like family. Anyways, what I trying to get at is that a lot of people depend on their friends/social life for happiness. While I don’t see anything wrong with that, I don’t like depending on someone else for my happiness. I don’t know if you have observed this before but I have seen people staying friends just because they can’t be “alone”. If I dislike someone for whatever reason I don’t think I can remain friends with them just because I would be lonely otherwise.
This is where my hobbies jump in. I think I have a variety of channels that I derive happiness from. I know that sometimes I am fickle and will jump from one fad thing to another depending on my interest at that moment. Sometimes I think that spending time catching up on my hobbies is a more constructive way of spending my free time than hanging out with people I don’t want to be around. People might call me a loner at times but hey I am happy in my solitude XD. At the same time, I learn a lot from the different mediums. For example, I like watching anime, dramas and foreign movies. They help me absorb the diverse languages and cultures. At the same time it is a very good source of entertainment and depending on the content it can be knowledgeable and educational even! Again with games, it is a fun experience. You can inspire the youth via games regarding stuff that they might not want to talk about upfront. I used to work with the Emergent Media Center in my college to make such games which would help to change the world that we live in. One of the projects that I worked on was a game to prevent violence against women through a soccer game called Breakaway. You can always argue that being cooped up inside playing games all day long is bad and I agree. I never said it was bad to make friends and/or go outside. I just dislike being dependent on those acts for my happiness so that someone can use it against me like a weakness.
Well that being said, I am actually an outgoing person who likes to meet people and make friends! I just don’t let it become a weakness or a dependency. Also all my various hobbies give me plenty to talk about with others…hence I am in a win-win situation :D. I also love my mom and sis a lot but that’s a story for another time ;)
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On Thu, Nov 3, 2011, Dipika said:
I hear you…I was kind of like that until recently when I started becoming more realistic xD. I always take friendships seriously and like you since I give a fair bit I expect at least a little in return but I am often disappointed. I am working on this as of now but sometimes I just feel that friendship itself means different things to different people…I just need to find like-minded people (like you) to become close friends with :D
Agreed…I guess I am one of those who likes relaxing at home once in a while and enjoys it XD.
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Hehe I was an easily manipulated kid ^_^; Glad I am not alone lol.
Yeah…I just naturally am like this so it’s kind of hard to change…I have changed a bit after bad experiences but I guess it is sort of hard to change your core nature >_<. I guess I probably seem like a pushover to most people T_T *dies*
On Fri, Nov 4, 2011, Kris said:
I used to be like how you described in the beginning. I was a happy kid too but I did need friends. That was before I got taken advantage of in high school and now look at me I only have two friends, HAHA. But I think I give in to too much peer pressure, like last summer for example I was out during all my free time because of my ‘friends’. I’d much rather spend time catching up on hobbies but I can’t stand nagging. That’s why my mom always wins you see.
Aww that’s great you have a diverse entertainment, I only have K-pop and a little J-pop and T-pop, and same with dramas. I don’t think cooped up inside with this stuff all day long is bad at all. XD
Soooooo are you interested in the fanlisting for No Minwoo? I refuse to adopt it to anyone else.
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Lol don’t you live in an apartment? From what I heard they don’t get trick-or-treaters. Maybe get an American boyfriend and have him take you trick-or-treating-babysitting? LOLOLOL!
Lol I’ve had Kimmy since she was a little baby and she’s hated every single young guy to step inside this house, cept Jason bc when I got Kimmy, Jason was a teen not a “young guy” LOL that phrase sounds stupid now. But she does hate the Daniel in my entry, who used to come over ALL the time that my mom asked if we were dating. >-> He’s actually the one who introduced me to k-pop and is megagood at dancing. Maybe it is usually opposite that girl friends get you into k-pop because I don’t think that many guys are into k-pop haha since they obviously wouldn’t be drooling over 2PM and not many girl songs they can listen to. But Daniel loves all kpop hahahahha.
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Actually I was right, JJ Lin is in Hana Kimi Taiwan version. He plays Ashiya Shizuki if you know who that is since I’m not sure of Japanese version. Either way he plays the main character’s older brother.
I have so much money that I don’t know what I’m saving for. I should get a new laptop, a new Krissy, and that tablet I wanted. I can afford them all too. But no my hands won’t let my brain spend money. >->
Yesss I’ve always wanted a sister. An older sister actually to guide me. T_T
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Wow you didn’t even have a curfew when you were a kid??? I had the darkness curfew up until 19 1/2! XD Well my mom only enforces that if I’m out by myself. If with friends it’ll be prob around 10PM, and if with my brothers then no curfew.
I’m listening to 0330 … that song is really beautiful! I’m not even a huge U-kiss fan hahahaha.
Lmao I’ve joked about being a kpop artist too but I can’t sing or dance.
Whew that took a long time. I wasn’t gonna do it tonight cus it’s pretty late and I still need to do homework and I wake up at 5:30 but what the hey.
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Well 2 good friends is better than 100 not real friends :D. I guess we are different in that aspect but that’s what makes us all unique XD.
Haha I totally agree there…especially when you are snowed in there’s nothing better than snuggling under the blankets and watching something on your laptop lol.
Oh I didn’t know No Minwoo fanlisting was up for adoption? I am
willingexcited to take that one too if you want to adopt it out.I do live in an apartment but it is more like an apartment complex? In the same building there’s 3 other apartments and we have many such buildings in the same compound…also a lot of families live here so they would have kids or so I assume XD. Maybe I will just try to baby sit some kids while the parents stay for trick or treat duty ^_^
LMAO…interesting Kimmy lol. Nice…I agree I think that most guys aren’t into KPop but I know a few XD. I have one offline guy friend who was actually a drama addict before and likes 2NE1 :3
O_o really? I need to see the Taiwan version now!!! I didn’t know he acted wow lol.
Hmm if you can afford it why not get a new Krissy or the wireless router for the internet XDD. You mean your brain won’t let your hands spend the money? lol.
Aww…trust me older sisters can’t guide you in all things…I know because sometimes my sister needs my guidance. It is good to have a sis in general though since you can share your feelings with someone around the same age ^_^
Well I was a good kid and no there wasn’t really a curfew ever lol…Me and my sis would go to bed early…the only thing we did was sometimes chat all night long or sing songs to which my mom would tell us to sleep loudly from the other room but never really yelled or anything. I didn’t really stay outdoors late when I lived with my family…there might’ve been couple occasions but as long as my mom knew where I was she was alright with it XD.
Haha I think I have turned into a UKiss fan after Neverland now!
LOL I see…I guess their life looks fascinating but I wouldn’t really like dieting and other things they have to do >_>
Aww I hope you get enough sleep with your crazy schedule…I know I don’t even when I have the choice to sleep early :(
On Fri, Nov 4, 2011, Kristi said:
It’s a very good thing not to be dependent on other people for happiness. People aren’t perfect, and when they take you for granted it can hurt quite a bit. I’ve been in that situation. I’ve also been that person who’s stayed friends with somebody even if they were mean sometimes. I’m working on distancing myself from that person as much as possible.
I really like this post. It had me thinking! :P
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I agree Kristi…it does hurt a lot when people take you for granted :( *hugs*. I hope you are successful in your attempt. I had a similar situation where my friend would keep hurting me and eventually I had to break off the friendship to get rid of the drama and the “trauma/stress” I like to refer to it as XD.
On Fri, Nov 4, 2011, Georgia Kate said:
I like my scrapbox very much already and there are, in a way, such useless things in it but somehow, they stir up old memories. I like being able to remember the past.
Oooh, good luck with your cycling then! I’ve only been once so far. I’m doing alright with eating well, however.
Gaming can be dead time consuming… I used to play computer games for hours and hours and hours. Things are different nowadays.
Take care! xx
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Haha me too! I have a ton of precious things that might appear to be garbage to others XD.
Thanks! I love biking outdoors on a real one but since we might be getting snow anytime now I have switched to my recumbent bike so it is easier to do it whenever I want :D. I am doing somewhat alright on the eating but whenever I hang out with friends we end up eating outside which might not be so healthy ^_^;
I agree!!! I remember playing games like “The Sims” for hours lol. Now that happens only on certain weekends XD.
On Mon, Nov 7, 2011, Shiki said:
“often be happy by myself” hehe. I talk to my reflection a lot, or even talk alone with an imaginary friend. Once, my parents caught me and they’re all putting on this concern expression and asks what’s wrong with me.. ==”
Even though I don’t wanna say it, most of the time when we friend each other, mostly because we think of the advantages. Oh well, I was used back then a lot of times so now I’m returning the favor; friends and I both know we only take advantage of each other. /shrug. we manage to sort out our problems alone though. being independent is cool,lol
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I talk to myself quite a lot too…it’s weird but doesn’t seem that much weird to me lol. I am sure everyone has done it at some point ;)
True…I guess we all make friends to be social and have someone to do fun things with. I like to think of friends as an extension to my family so I always try to be there for them when they need me good times and bad…but I may not always receive the same that I have given ^_^; Now I try to be a little more practical in friendships but I can’t change myself >_< XD.
I rely a fair bit on my friends even though I guess I would call myself quite antisocial when I want to be. I think, though, sometimes I do take friendships too seriously because I always end up expecting too much since I give a fair bit. Always a bad move, that. Need to try and sort that habit out…
I think it depends on your personality. Some people can’t stand being cooped up indoors and some don’t mind it at all. I think I’m a mixture: I like going out and getting things done but I don’t mind sitting at home all day making icons and watching Merlin (that was me today, whee).
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Aha same! I remember asking my mum for stuff just because of the adverts for it.
I think it’s fine to be good to everyone, but just to be wary of being stepped all over. I think it was Alex who commented saying that there is a difference between a pushover and a people pleaser. Made me think, that.
Take care! xx